The Practice of Your Life

The Exercise and Pursuit of a Consciously Created Life

In defense of Gossiping

Dec 22
2009

In my last post I wrote about the Consequences of Gossiping and like most things in life there are many shades of grey.  Below there is an amusing story about gossiping that suggests that while you are well advised to remove yourself from gossip it is not wise to be completely oblivious to it.

Here’s the story (by way of Kim Davis – Thanks Kim):

“In ancient Greece (469 – 399 BC) Socrates was widely lauded for his wisdom. One day the great philosopher came upon an acquaintance who ran up to him excitedly and said, “Socrates, do you know what I just heard about one of your students?”

“Wait a moment,” Socrates replied. “Before you tell me I’d like you to pass a… Continue reading

When You Can’t Trust a Trapeze Artist

Oct 05
2009

A few weeks ago, I was at a birthday party and I introduced myself to some friends of the birthday girl. They didn’t look alike at all and I was genuinely surprised when they insisted they were siblings. They all had really great energy and I engaged in a very lively and I thought genuine discussion about them and their family.

One sister said she was a trapeze artist, currently living somewhere in Florida, the other was an actress in New York and the brother was a neuroscientist who studied at Columbia.  They had another brother who they said was a “doper” (meaning he was into drugs).  So, a trapeze artist (don’t meet to many of them), an actress, a scientist and a druggie.  Nice mix I thought.  Seemed… Continue reading

Why can’t you find THE answers?

Aug 12
2009

I was reading a fellow blogger’s post today, and in it he said his purpose was to help you find THE (my caps) answers to certain life questions.   This reminded me of some of my earlier posts on truth where I talk about the concept of truth and that perhaps Jack Nicholson’s character was right when he said “You can’t handle the truth” in the movie “A Few Good Men.”

Isn’t it curious that no-one seems to have found it yet?  The truth I mean.   Of course there are some people who think they have, yet their truth is not accepted by others who either admit they are still searching for THE truth, or are dead certain that they have THE truth.

You would… Continue reading

Oceans of Truth

Feb 20
2009

Most people are taught that the truth is some final answer that can be fully known, comprehended and owned, that it is finite and describable.

Well, it is so NO-OOTT, as the valley girls would say.

There are two major aspects to the truth that when acknowledged could make this world a very different place.  The first is that it’s ability to reveal is only limited by our willingness to look, and the second is that apparent contradictions are contained within it.  Here’s where the ocean as metaphor is helpful.

Everyone can agree on what an ocean is, but what do we know is the truth about it?  Only recently have we been able to peer into the depths of the ocean, yet still for most of… Continue reading

Breakthrough in being with another’s POV

Oct 17
2008

The other day I was having a drink with a good friend of mine and he began to relate his impression of one of the political candidates in the upcoming election.  To say that his view was completely at odds with my own is to put it mildly.  What was really interesting though was that I noticed the initial feeling that got triggered by his words. The feeling that came up was anger, or more like an extreme irritation and it was completely reactive.  The thoughts that immediately popped up were your garden variety of “How could you be so stupid?, “Can’t you see how you’re being manipulated?”, “My God, you’re talking about a candidate for the top office …”

And then a miracle happened!

I let it… Continue reading

Humility Producers

Sep 10
2008

I can’t believe I did that.  I mean really; what could have I been thinking?  I’m too embarrassed to describe the event, but I will say that it was inappropriate.   And to top it off, it was with a very put together professional who could be of immense value in my professional growth and a great friend in my future.

It reminds me of a similar humility producing event that occurred very early in my professional career where I was at lunch with three of my business colleagues.  I had just started the job, and a colleague – also new – asked me if I wanted to join her and two of our more senior colleagues for lunch; one being very senior to us.  Anyway the topic of oral… Continue reading

Who is this person I’m in a relationship with?

Jun 09
2008

I’m a big fan of the movie Crash because it did an excellent job of illustrating this point:the greatest good and the greatest evil lies within us all. What got me writing about it now is a couple that I know that is going through a rocky period. I’m not going to describe details … suffice to say that it has a very familiar story line and it got me thinking of a common relationship story. They mostly follow a set path: excitement, everything fits/works, you have so much in common, you look at stuff the same way, until one day …. something happens and it’s clear that this person is not who you thought they were. How could that be? How could you have been so mistaken?

I think for… Continue reading