Category Archives: Perspective Shift

The Practice of Shifting Perspective

We look for meaning everywhere; it’s our unique capacity as human beings. It is so innate to who we are that we exercise this capacity unconsciously with very negative consequences like false beliefs, intransigence, broken relationships, and worse.

Adopting practices that force you to recognize your perspective and seek the value in different or even paradoxical perspectives is essential to your personal development and the cultivation of strong and rewarding relationships. When you try on another perspective, when you see the world through someone else’s eyes; the result is “Wow!”

Photography as metaphor for how you look at life

Photography as metaphor for how you look at life

How you look at your life affects how you feel about it which then impacts the actions you take.

Feel badly about yourself or the way your life is going and you’re more likely to stay home and brood.

Feel good about your life or career and you’re more likely to act for the sake of it.

It all starts with the stories you choose to tell yourself.

The point is, there is no truth about you or your life; only perspective. And you get to choose it.

You get to compose the stories and perspective on your life,

just like a photographer gets to compose his subject, or a fiction writer gets to create his protagonist.

I think photography is a better metaphor because everyone can relate to it.

A photographer would never take a bad picture of a subject that s/he cared about. S/he would compose the shot by considering things like foreground, background, lighting, movement etc. and only then would s/he shoot.

Just like a photographer can illuminate a subject, so can you with any aspect of your life.
Just like a photographer can illuminate a subject, so can you with any aspect of your life.

S/he doesn’t choose shots that makes the subject look bad or uninteresting and s/he deletes or Photoshops the ones that don’t give the desired result.

The photographer knows there are ways to frame the subject to bring out it’s interest and beauty.

Why wouldn’t you take the same care for the subject of your life.

It’s all about choice

The moment you find yourself feeling down and in moods of depression or even despair you are looking at a bad photograph of your life. Metaphorically speaking.

Take another.

This time focus on the good things you’ve done, the good people in your life and on what you’ve learned.   If you’re feeling down about the bad things that you did or happened to you, focus on the good things that came out of them.  With time there’s always something good that comes from misfortune and tragedy.

The thing to always remember is that—like a photographer—there are many ways to shoot (think or talk about) the subject of your life.  If you have difficulty doing this it’s because you’ve become attached to one perspective and have forgotten that—like a photographer—you can choose another.   Good friends, coaches and mentors are invaluable in helping you see the beauty, richness that come from your unique life.

So every time you try to compose a shot with your camera, think about doing the same with how you think and talk about your life.

 

The whole truth and nothing but

The whole truth and nothing but

Much of our people problems at home and at work come from the common mistake that we can know not only the truth, but the whole truth … and nothing but. We can’t and that’s why I can’t imagine being selected for a jury. I just could not take the oath “I solemnly swear toContinue Reading

Why we hate to commit, and why we must

Why we hate to commit, and why we must

Most people hate to commit. No, it’s not just guys in relationship and marriage. The average person hates to be pinned down by a promise and that’s why the willingness to obligate to another person is THE differentiator of professionals. But what accounts for this unwillingness to commit? Why does making commitments seem as unappealingContinue Reading

Relationship lessons from Soap Operas

Relationship lessons from Soap Operas

TV soap operas are addictive because most people can’t resist being on the inside of people’s lives, knowing their dirty laundry and having someone—an arch villain to hate.  We somehow can’t pull ourselves away from watching a totally avoidable and needless drama unfold. One person does something, says something, or maybe doesn’t do or sayContinue Reading

Don’t repeat 2013

2014 is here.  Seems like it accelerated towards us like a peregrine falcon in full dive. Where did 2013 go and what really got done? I think your natural enthusiasm for 2014 may depend on how you answer that question. If 2013 fulfilled your expectations, or was part of your unfolding plan of ambition, youContinue Reading

We can all be like Madiba

It’s easy to talk about Mandela as if he were a secular saint.  He certainly would meet the minimum two miracle requirement for sainthood: He literally transformed, fear, hatred and vengeance into forgiveness and compassion.   Not exactly raising Lazarus, but trumps water into wine, don’t you think? For his second miracle, how about hisContinue Reading

A Murder in Paradise

It’s odd to think that someone could be murdered in a place called Trinidad. The name conjures peace love and paradise, but increasingly it is not. Here’s a two-year old story I penned about a murder that affected my family. I had not published it out of sensitivity for those affected. Three shots and noContinue Reading