In life it seems that we’re consumed by the need to avoid making mistakes. We indoctrinate our kids in a right way of doing things, and a wrong way. Kids learn quickly that love and approval comes from getting things right, and that ridicule and separation comes from making mistakes. Mistakes as the means to show superiority The focus…
In the movie Antwone Fisher, the main character is on track to get kicked out of the Navy for belligerence and disrespect for authority when the Navy shrink (Denzel Washington) steps in. Turns out Antwone’s (Derek Luke) father was killed before he was born and his mother never claimed him. Growing up in the care…
There’s a helluva difference between the idea of a romantic relationship and the reality of it, and there’s a helluva difference between the idea of your dream job, career, business and the reality of achieving/living it. They go through similar stages. The dream relationship overview At the beginning of a romantic relationship we dream about “the one,” and the…
How many people do you know that are truly passionate about what they do? Probably not many. I know I hadn’t met anyone truly passionate about their work until I was in my late twenties, and when I did I remember being completely blown away by the very concept of being passionate about your work….
When my dad was in the hospital, I had an opportunity to observe the different styles of doctors. They ran all the way from aloof and distant to intimate and caring. Now I can’t imagine what it does to a person’s psyche to watch people die as part of your job; to literally pronounce their…
In one of the recent debates for the republican nomination, Brian Williams prefaced his question to Governor Rick Perry about the death penalty by saying that his state had executed over 234 prison inmates, more than any other Governor in modern times. What was shocking was not the Governor’s claim that the he was unbothered…
Earlier this year, as I said goodbye to my brother and his family at Schiphol airport there was that old familiar pain of saying goodbyes to loved ones; that pang of sadness. In the past it was usually at saying goodbye to my parents and it got worse as they got older; so bad in…